You’re ALWAYS “Rebuilding Rome”

Hey friends! It’s been a minute. My last update on “Rebuilding Rome” was after my “Week 8 Progress Report” in late February and then I kind of went M.I.A. on everyone. Sorry about that; life got in the way. However, I’ve kept working on myself and this post will kind of update you on all of my progress and will tie a bow on any loose ends.

So, my last update was on February 26, 2018. And now, it’s August 2, 2018. It’s been just over five months. A lot has changed. So, basically, I stopped updating the blog because in February I figured out I needed another surgery for a hernia I had developed and I was kind of disappointed. Another speed bump. Though I was only really out of commission for a week, it still discouraged me. But, really…taking time away from this blog was probably a good decision for a little bit.

I made a lot of positive changes in my life since February. I got really motivated to make changes in my career and I started reaching out to connections I had and not all of them were positive. One gentleman even told me that I was “largely unfocused” and that I had wasted 15 minutes of his life. I decided after that call to talk with a career advisor and tell him what I wanted to accomplish and I was having trouble figuring out the “how.” How do I get there? Luckily, I have taken four different career-personality tests including the MBTI and the Strong Interest Inventory. Basically, I can’t be behind the desk. I thrive in team environments and I want work in an upbeat environment and helping people. Working with a team to reach a common goal…that’s my jam. As I’ve mentioned previously, I was a huge high school athlete and so I really think coaching could be in my future. So, I reached out to my brother’s high school football coach and now I’m going to coach JV Football this upcoming fall at his high school. Additionally, I’ve shadowed a personal trainer and I plan on shadowing a general manager of a fitness center and an athletic director of a high school. Frankly, I think it would be awesome to work in an athletic department either in a high school or a college and coach 1-2 sports. Helping mold young men through sports just feels like it could be that perfect fit and I could really gain that value and meaning I’ve been searching for.

Physically, I feel pretty great. I’m eating intuitively now and not experiencing major cravings for sweets like I was in January through March. I’ve also been having amazing workouts and it is showing IN THE MIRROR. I went on a college visit trip with my brother and father in early April. During that time, I started to really accept who I am as a person. I remember coming home and I looked myself in the mirror both physically and mentally and I said, “This is who you are. And, I’m okay with that.” It took a long time for that self-acceptance. I had just always been focused on not being good enough or always improving, but I was finally at peace with myself both mentally and physically. The only physical flaw that still needs to be dealt with is my nagging and chronic neck pain that I am still working on getting a solution to. So, eventually I’ll update you all on that.

The "After"
Happy and healthy

But, it’s funny how things all come together when you are finally content and proud and comfortable with yourself. When you’re self-accepting and sure of yourself, it seems other people start to take notice…and want to be a part of it. My personal life has seen an uptick as I have met some pretty amazing people and I’m doing more of what I enjoy doing. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that all of this has happened when I was doing things that I enjoy doing and at a time where I was very accepting of myself. I think the saying; “your vibe attracts your tribe” is very accurate.

Obviously, since February, other things have changed. I’ve got a new look, I’m buying a new car, I’ve started to read books for pleasure and to further better myself, and I’ll be taking the GRE soon. Everything is positive and I have “Rebuilding Rome” to thank for kick-starting me in the right direction.

However, things aren’t perfect. I’m pretty frustrated that there is still no diagnosis for my neck injury. I still enjoy my job, but I do really desire to have a greater sense of purpose within my community. And, though I am happy where I am at in my personal life, I do need to do a better job with honestly communicating my feelings and what I want. The message here is that nothing is ever perfect. In a way, you are always “Rebuilding Rome” and once you hit whatever goal you set, it doesn’t mean to stop. Set new goals. Don’t get complacent. We will never run out of problems. Rather, new (and often less awful) problems will arise that we need to solve. I’ll be stopping by on here occasionally to update on both fitness thoughts and some inspiring mental health thoughts…as well as some of my own happenings. I eventually want this blog to evolve into something a bit more vulnerable and personal because that’s really what I want to get into in my future career and that’s when I feel like I tell the stories that people love and relate to most (see, “Finding Your Motivation.”) Anyway, that’s all for now. Keep on rebuilding. ‘Till next time…

Week 8 Progress Report

Hey friends, thanks for checking in with me for the Week 8 Progress Report. I have weighed in this week at 164.8 pounds and so I am down 0.2 pounds since last week. That doesn’t sound like a ton of progress, but considering that I seriously went off the wagon in the middle of the week on desserts, I’m pretty ecstatic that there was any loss at all. I’m determined to stay more focused on my goal, especially now that there is only four weeks to go.

The reason you always hear, “the last five pounds are the toughest to lose,” is because as you lose the weight, you have to work harder in your workouts to burn the same amount of calories and the way to lose weight is to make sure you are regularly in a calorie deficit. So, making sure you eat correctly and at the correct times combined with getting in a sufficient workout can get harder because you workout longer, therefore working harder to burn the same amount of calories, yet intaking the same amount of food. It’s a difficult concept, but one you have to stick to. I cannot wait to get to the point of just maintaining. But, I’ve got to earn it.

Thanks for checking in with me for the Week 8 Progress Report on Rebuilding Rome, I will see you all next week!

Week 7 Progress Report

Hey everybody, thanks for checking in for the Week 7 Progress Report and some pleasantly surprising progress was made this week. After having a rough week mentally with sticking with my positive eating habit changes, Thursday was a turning point. This week was not easy to get through, but I’ve come too far and invested too much in myself to let it be all for nothing.

This morning I weighed in at 165 pounds even, meaning I have exactly five pounds left to lose to reach my goal weight by April 2nd. Additionally, I’ve got five weeks left to reach that goal…which means I have to lose a pound a week from here on out. Very manageable.

Quickly, I updated the “Actually Rebuilding Rome” post and it now has a YouTube video that covers my weight lifting workout in order, so check that out if your heart so desires.

As for this week’s post, I’m going to be covering leg day…and tequila. Nope, that’s not a typo. Just look out for the post later this week!

One final note is that Rebuilding Rome is no longer on Snapchat or Twitter. I decided to make those profiles personal profiles, as it seems I’m gaining a nice little following on Instagram for Rebuilding Rome. If you want to connect with me on Snapchat, my handle is cal_beneze. And if you want to connect with me on Twitter, my handle is @calsrandomthots.

That’s all for the Week 7 Progress Report. Thanks for checking in!

Week 6 Progress Report

Hey everyone, thanks for checking in with me for my Week 6 Progress report.

So, for the first time since Rebuilding Rome went live, I have actually gained weight since last week. I went from 165.6 pounds last Monday to 166.8 pounds this Monday. I’m not overly worried. Peaks and valleys are normal in a weight-loss journey. Yeah, I’m up a little more than a pound, but it’s important to know why. Well, it’s probably because I did back-to-back “My Nights” from my BistroMD plan (which is probably not the recommended way to use your “My Nights” from BistroMD.) But, you have to live your life. It was Super Bowl Sunday last Sunday and then on Monday one of my best friends was in town and we went to an amazing steakhouse called “Angus Barn” in Raleigh, NC. If you’re ever in the Raleigh area and you have some monies to spend, this is THE place to go for dinner.

I’m at the halfway mark and I’m looking forward to crushing my goal. Nothing worth doing ever comes easy.

Keep a lookout for the casein protein bar and smoothie recipes that I’m going to make THIS WEEK!

Thanks for checking in and have a great week!

Week 5 Progress Report

Hey everyone, thanks for checking in here on “Rebuilding Rome” for the Week 5 Progress Report. Progress is continuing to be made as I am down to 165.6 pounds. Happy to still be progressing. Also, since this was my first post in the month of February, I thought it’d be a good time to see the change on my body fat percentage and my body mass index (BMI). I am now at 12.3% body fat, which I am extremely happy with and I am at 25.2 on the BMI scale which puts me 0.2 over into the overweight category. I don’t get worked up too much about BMI, so I’m not overly concerned. Just have to keep eating right and exercising regularly.
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Make sure to check-in this week as I’ll be posting what goes into my weekly workouts as well as my (fingers crossed) casein protein bar and smoothie recipes. Thanks for stopping by “Rebuilding Rome” and have a good one!

Week 4 Progress Report

Hey everyone, thanks for checking in here on “Rebuilding Rome” for the Week 4 Progress Report. Things are going great as I am down to 167 pounds. So, I only have seven pounds left to lose to reach my goal weight with still a few days left in January. I’m very encouraged by everyone’s support. I really want to make “Rebuilding Rome” great for you all, so anything you want to see or hear…I’m all ears. I want to make this a great experience for everyone, not just me!

This week’s blog posts are going to be a lot of fun. I’ll be doing a video making homemade casein protein bars and shakes for those late night cravings. Additionally, keep an eye out for a post about what it is exactly I’m doing on a weekly basis in terms of my workouts.

Have a great week everyone, thanks for checking in with “Rebuilding Rome!”

Week 3 Progress Report

Hey everyone, welcome back to “Rebuilding Rome” for my week 3 progress report!

Very excited to announce that I am below the 170 pound mark at 169.2 pounds. I’m over halfway to my goal weight of 160 pounds and it has only been exactly 3 weeks! It goes to show with dedication, discipline and hard work…progress will happen. Still have a long way to go, so for now I’m just continuing to enjoy the journey.

Additionally, super pumped to announce that “Rebuilding Rome” is now on several social media platforms. I’ve been getting a lot of encouragement from my followers here on the website and it made me want to try and reach as many people as I can. “Rebuilding Rome” is now available on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and Snapchat. Additionally, you can email any questions to romerebuilding@gmail.com. Also, check out the “Rebuilding Rome on Social Media” tab as that page also has all of the links to the “Rebuilding Rome” social media pages.

Be sure to check back in this week as I’ll have posts covering financial investment and finding your motivation.